Do you need more money? Do you need a better job? How about a relationship? We all have needs, wants and desires and we think about them, even spend time visualizing them but they don’t show up! Why??

A client recently contacted me and asked me why the Law of Attraction isn’t working for her. I had to laugh and say that’s it’s never NOT working. It’s a law, just like gravity, it’s always switched “ON” and can’t be off. It just is.

She said that she has had money issues for too long now and is doing everything according to the Law of Attraction and what we had discussed. She is visualizing checks coming in, visualizing higher bank statement balances when she looks at her statements that come in the mail, she is having gratitude for what she has, we have re-worked some of her limiting beliefs in sessions and done a few other things. So where’s the money!?

When I tuned into her energy I felt stagnation. I asked her what she was doing to bring in the money and she said nothing, just visualizing and doing all of the things to line her thoughts and beliefs up with money. BIG PROBLEM…

This is a mistake many of us make when it comes to understanding the law of attraction.  It is true that like attracts like and we need to line our thoughts and beliefs up with what we want but we also have to get our energy moving in order to bring in the new energy or our wants/desires.

Think of it like riding a merry go round. What you want is sitting on the opposite side of the merry go round but as you stand in front of it, you can’t see it. Picture a pile of money in a bag, on the other side of the merry go round. In order to get the merry go round to move, give it some energy to move it. We must push it, pull it, get it somehow to spin!

Likewise, when we want to create something we must shift our thoughts and beliefs but then TAKE ACTION toward it. So in my client’s case, she must get out and do something to bring in the pile of money she wants. She is an artist and I recommended she start doing her work and then sell her pieces. It’s her true love and her passion. She began to think of doing this and THIS was where the block came up. She felt like she wasn’t good enough to do that and that she might have missed her time, missed the boat. Here is where her block is. Because of these limiting beliefs she was just sitting and waiting for her money to come in and not taking action.

She has decided to push through her fears and just do it, which in turn will get her energy moving and my feeling is that money will begin to show up for her.

When we want something to manifest in our lives the steps are simple:

1. Figure out what you want and define it, state it.
2. Visualize it coming in, imagine it, have fun with it, know it’s coming.
3. Take action steps to bring it to you.
4. Allow the creation to manifest, don’t suppose you know the avenue that it is coming to you from. Manifestations arrive typically the opposite from how we think they are coming.

Now, throughout this process it’s very important to tune into our bodies and pay attention to what is rising up for us. Could there be an emotional block that we are unaware of? If so, get in touch with it, face it and either change that belief or talk with someone that can help you to shift on it.

I remember discussing with a friend who wanted a new job and she was visualizing the heck out of it but it wasn’t manifesting. I asked her how many resumes she had sent out and she replied, “none!” I asked her if she thought her new boss would just come knocking on her door and offer her the job. We laughed together and I recommended a few resumes would be a good idea to send out.

We never know how our manifestations will show up, typically we say, “Who would have thought it would have happened like “THAT?” One thing I know for sure and that is we must take some kind of action to move the energy forward if we ever want to see our desire show up.

This morning I woke up feeling overwhelmed as I had a “to do list” longer than the hours in a day and it just kept growing. This anxiety had been coming on for days as my work schedule, kids sports and school schedule,  and simply maintaining a home was taking over my life and the hours in a day to “get it all done” seemed to evaporate and before I knew it I would be looking at 11pm every.

My mind kept telling me that it would only get worse as the work/travel for work/sports/school- schedule went on. Less time, more to do, less time, more to do….(the broken record in my head). I began hearing myself state to my friends and family, “I have no time to get it all done!”” I’ll never get everything done.” “I’m so stressed!”

The kind, ever so perfect universe and the law of attraction simply matched my thoughts and beliefs of “so stressed and not enough time” and created for me more and more items on my to do list! So today I awoke with rapid heartbeat and the slight anxiety that I had had for days was full on anxiety, as I replayed my drama in my head.

I knew the only way out of this anxiety was to sit. Meditation is THE BEST drug on the market AND it’s FREE!  My ego/mind kept telling me for days that I had so much to do that I had no time to sit and “do nothing” (as my mind would tell me-(to meditate) so I kept pushing it off.

I chose to do it anyway…

In my meditation after a few minutes of silence I asked for guidance on how to help me to “find my way home.” I needed to hit “reset” on my life and get back to balance.

I immediately felt a “whoosh” in my heart center and then felt warmth fill me up and then expand out into the room. I sat in silence for minutes (which felt like an hour) and asked how to maintain this state. I heard very clearly the word, “Live in the Present.” I felt so light and peaceful, as if a warm comforter had been wrapped around me. I sat in gratitude for a few moments and decided to get up and go for a walk.

As I walked I saw the birds and the colors so differently, they were vibrant and beautiful, like I had never seen! I then had a thought about how I could not wait to blog about my experience and I began to think about what I was going to say. As my mind began to race again I heard very softly, “present.” I realized that I was completely out of the present and had allowed my ego/mind to take over and bring me into the future of writing my blog. I couldn’t believe how easily I had slipped out of that magnificent state. I chose to jump back in and as I did my power walk, I looked at everything as if seeing the outdoors for the first time. It was work to stay present moment as throughout the rest of the hour my mind kept drifting to the past or future and then I would redirect to present.

What an amazing walk I had. For those of us that have a difficult time sitting in silence and meditating, this is another fabulous way to meditate-Walking Meditation. It takes work and practice to live in the moment but the more we do it the easier it becomes.

Anything that can shift anxiety to peace in minutes is worth trying and incorporating into our daily routine. Even if it’s just for a few moments a day, practice living in the present, it’s where anxiety and stress DON’T live.

Someone says or does something not so nice to you and you feel so angry that you have to call someone else to tell them about it, we call it venting. We tell the whole story, every detail, sometimes yelling, screaming or maybe even have a shocked tone to our voice and say something like, “Can you believe “so and so” did that to me???”  “The nerve of them!”

We get the validation from our friend or family member that we were right and “the culprit” is totally wrong. At the end of the conversation, when we are done venting, we say to our friend, “Thanks for Listening.”

When we take into consideration the Law of Attraction which states, “like attracts like”, or “what you think (or talk) about comes about,” do we really want to be telling our story all over again, creating more of what we don’t want? The irony is that we thank our friends for helping us to create more of the same exact thing that made us upset to begin with!

The world we live is in a mirror for all of our thoughts and beliefs. When someone gossips about you, it’s because you gossip too (even if it’s only once in awhile). When someone treats you with disrespect they are simply mirroring the disrespect that you feel toward yourself, but are unwilling to look at. When a parent allows their child to yell at them, and does not discipline them, on some level the parent believes they deserve it.

A client of mine was pregnant with her 2nd child and continuously thought that something bad was going to happen to her baby. She weekly attracted in women that told her horrifying stories about their complications with pregnancy and/or the birthing experience. When she and her husband excitedly shared the news of being pregnant with baby #2 with her mother in law, the response was that she was not going to say anything to anyone in case she had a miscarriage! (By the way,her mother in law did not say this when hearing the news of baby #1).

She lived with stories like this for months. She came for a session I asked her why she was attracting in all of these people and their terrible stories. Because like thoughts/beliefs attract like thought/beliefs and experiences, we decided to examine her beliefs around this baby. We found her belief to be that she did not deserve to have another healthy child, since she had already had one. We worked through that belief and shifted her worthiness around having another healthy child. THAT DAY was the last day she heard any horrifying stories about child birth, problems with pregnancy and the loss of a child. Her thoughts and beliefs had changed and her new experiences reflected that.

The only part of us that enjoys (and needs) to tell “our story” and how we were hurt is our ego/mind. It is looking for validation that it is right and the other person is in the wrong.

The empowering thing to do when something negative happens in life, is to become aware of our part in attracting it. We need to look in the mirror and take responsibility for our thoughts and beliefs. These are the very things that create our negative and positive life events. We have no one to blame for a negative event but ourselves and our sloppy thinking/beliefs. Look at each negative event as a gift. It’s the gift of showing us which limiting thoughts/beliefs to clean up to change our life for the better.