Being a woman, I realize from my own awareness’s and other women around me that we think we are valuable and lovable for things that we do or a status that we hold. Are we really only lovable if we have a great job that brings in substantial income, raise outstanding children,  keep a clean home or prepare meals like an iron chef? Perhaps the mind  tells us to fulfill one of these things or something different. What does your mind tell you? Perhaps there is a list of things that the mind is telling us to accomplish and THEN we will be lovable. What does that mean exactly? What does it really mean to be lovable? Is it that we are finally worthy to find ourselves as good and whole? Is it that we are finally able to accept a compliment without brushing it away? I remember I used to respond to the question “what do you do” with, “I am JUST a stay at home mom,” and I would feel bad about it! There was something inside of me that said that “job” wasn’t good enough. What did I have to do to become lovable and worthy? Would me working make me more acceptable and lovable? What if I had no job and no kids and my husband supported me, am I worthy of love?

What I have become aware of is that we are only love and when we don’t see ourselves as such we are blocking ourselves from seeing it. We don’t have to do anything to be worthy of love. I believe we are all a sliver of God, the Divine, Source, whatever you would like to call it. We as souls, wandering around on this planet are all part of God, who is only unconditional love. So if I am created from unconditional love, this would mean that I am love. The question is, why do I feel so bad about myself?

It’s because we learn at a young age that “we are bad,” “we make mistakes,” “we do something ‘wrong’ and get punished” etc. Well my friends, it’s all an illusion. Our minds go haywire leading us to believe “it” knows how to make us fit in, feel acceptable and become lovable. We must listen to our minds. It’s not true!

It’s time we realize that WE ARE ALL a part of God and the only reason we ever feel bad about ourselves is because we have simply forgotten that. If we are not living a life everyday looking in the mirror saying “I love you” it’s our mind telling us “not yet…you will be lovable when….” THIS IS NOT TRUE! In fact it’s impossible! We are already love! Accept this fact! What I realized is that it was ME that was blocking myself from feeling acceptable and lovable. No one else had that power over me, it’s how I THINK I am seeing myself in the world.

Is the person living on the streets as a homeless person and a socialite in NYC deserve any more or less love? Each person is simply having a different GOD experience. God is flowing through both people, having beautiful experiences in both scenarios. Life is just a series of experiences and we are lovable in each and every one of them.

The mind tends to term something as bad or unlovable if what you are doing or how you are living is not meeting the minds (ego) expectations.

How do we break this?

Ask yourself one question…

“What do I have to do or when will I become lovable?”

I encourage you to really sit with this question and find your truth on it.

The answer may surprise you…you might already be lovable.

In my meditation this morning, I was sitting in silence and began asking a few questions about my day and how I may serve. I immediately “knew” the answers. It happened so quickly it amazed me.

I realized that all of life’s answers are in the present moment because this is where God sits and waits, patiently, lovingly and without judgment, for us to come and merge with him.

When we sit present moment and stop our thoughts, we begin to feel and remember we are part of something MUCH greater. We merge with the divine and we remember there is no separation, only the oneness. It is the ego that wants us to believe we are separate, not worthy, not good enough, not loveable etc. and wants to pull us away from the silence, the oneness.

I was amazed at what I automatically just knew this morning. Even more than what I knew it was the feeling that came over me, the calmness and peace. God emerges through us and we step into the all knowing stream of truth. All of the answers and wisdom that we seek are sitting there waiting for us in the present moment.