Do you need more money? Do you need a better job? How about a relationship? We all have needs, wants and desires and we think about them, even spend time visualizing them but they don’t show up! Why??

A client recently contacted me and asked me why the Law of Attraction isn’t working for her. I had to laugh and say that’s it’s never NOT working. It’s a law, just like gravity, it’s always switched “ON” and can’t be off. It just is.

She said that she has had money issues for too long now and is doing everything according to the Law of Attraction and what we had discussed. She is visualizing checks coming in, visualizing higher bank statement balances when she looks at her statements that come in the mail, she is having gratitude for what she has, we have re-worked some of her limiting beliefs in sessions and done a few other things. So where’s the money!?

When I tuned into her energy I felt stagnation. I asked her what she was doing to bring in the money and she said nothing, just visualizing and doing all of the things to line her thoughts and beliefs up with money. BIG PROBLEM…

This is a mistake many of us make when it comes to understanding the law of attraction.  It is true that like attracts like and we need to line our thoughts and beliefs up with what we want but we also have to get our energy moving in order to bring in the new energy or our wants/desires.

Think of it like riding a merry go round. What you want is sitting on the opposite side of the merry go round but as you stand in front of it, you can’t see it. Picture a pile of money in a bag, on the other side of the merry go round. In order to get the merry go round to move, give it some energy to move it. We must push it, pull it, get it somehow to spin!

Likewise, when we want to create something we must shift our thoughts and beliefs but then TAKE ACTION toward it. So in my client’s case, she must get out and do something to bring in the pile of money she wants. She is an artist and I recommended she start doing her work and then sell her pieces. It’s her true love and her passion. She began to think of doing this and THIS was where the block came up. She felt like she wasn’t good enough to do that and that she might have missed her time, missed the boat. Here is where her block is. Because of these limiting beliefs she was just sitting and waiting for her money to come in and not taking action.

She has decided to push through her fears and just do it, which in turn will get her energy moving and my feeling is that money will begin to show up for her.

When we want something to manifest in our lives the steps are simple:

1. Figure out what you want and define it, state it.
2. Visualize it coming in, imagine it, have fun with it, know it’s coming.
3. Take action steps to bring it to you.
4. Allow the creation to manifest, don’t suppose you know the avenue that it is coming to you from. Manifestations arrive typically the opposite from how we think they are coming.

Now, throughout this process it’s very important to tune into our bodies and pay attention to what is rising up for us. Could there be an emotional block that we are unaware of? If so, get in touch with it, face it and either change that belief or talk with someone that can help you to shift on it.

I remember discussing with a friend who wanted a new job and she was visualizing the heck out of it but it wasn’t manifesting. I asked her how many resumes she had sent out and she replied, “none!” I asked her if she thought her new boss would just come knocking on her door and offer her the job. We laughed together and I recommended a few resumes would be a good idea to send out.

We never know how our manifestations will show up, typically we say, “Who would have thought it would have happened like “THAT?” One thing I know for sure and that is we must take some kind of action to move the energy forward if we ever want to see our desire show up.

Many of you have asked me if the stories in the previous post “I Challenge You,” were real or made up. They are ALL REAL!

I realize that it’s hard to believe that by spending 2 minutes (or less) a day feeling gratitude/appreciation about someone or something we can change relationships with whomever or whatever we are focusing on. BUT, in 2 words…THIS WORKS! I have had countless examples come in since I wrote this blog post.

BUT HOW?

When we focus on something and hold appreciation/gratitude for it we are actually filling our bodies with more light. When we fill up with more light energy we then attract more light to us.  Simply stated, light energy is love energy. Because the law of attraction is always in force, just as the law of gravity is always in force, when we fill ourselves with love we can then only attract more love into our lives! Remember, like attracts like. It’s a real simple formula and works very quickly.

THE DILEMMA

It’s difficult to spend time focusing on the good in someone we don’t have a great relationship with, let alone that we are upset with. Our ego/mind makes us question ourselves with ideas like, “Why would you feel love let alone gratitude for someone that has hurt you?” “Don’t let them “win” this, they need to be punished!” Our ego/mind finds a ton or reasons to keep us “right” but the problem is, whether we are right or not, it keeps us stuck where we are. We remain unhappy, uncomfortable and miserable when we think of this person,  unable to move into a healthier relationship with the person we are wanting to heal the relationship with!

DON’T BE RIGHT, BE HAPPY!

So stop being right and simply be happy. The way to be happy is to spend as little as 30 seconds to 2 minutes a day on someone or something you would like to have a changed relationship with. THIS WORKS! When your mind wants to drift back into being right or not thinking thoughts of gratitude because the mind says the other person needs to be punished GO TO YOUR HAPPY PLACE of gratitude/appreciation with them.

MY EXAMPLE

I myself have had an extremely difficult 2 months with a family member. My sister and I are dealing with some family issues that are  related to an uncle that brought much unhappiness to our family (our entire childhood) that we now have to take care of. He has dementia so he treats us badly much of the time which makes it extremely difficult to continue to do what we are doing for him. We continually hear how disappointed he is in us and angry he is. It begins to wear on us after a point.

After the first few weeks, my sister and I began to hit road blocks with insurance companies, realtors, dmv  and other people and companies we were working with on behalf of my uncle. I realized that after a few weeks of my uncle yelling at us and being so ungrateful we began to speak negatively of him and WE WERE CREATING THESE ROAD BLOCKS!

I recommended we find something we can appreciate about him, anything. This was difficult for us as our childhoods with him did not provide much if anything to be grateful for. BUT, we sat with it and found a couple things. My sister chose to see herself fishing with him and my father when she was 5 years old. I chose to see myself on his shoulders while water skiing like I used to do when I was 8. Those 2 experiences brought us joy. We began to focus on these whenever a negative thought would come in and we wanted to complain about him. Things began to turn around in days for us, everything began to fall into place. It was magical and amazing how fast things changed.

We learned such a great lesson in those few weeks. We learned how quickly we can change our lives with thought.

KEY POINTS

1. Our thoughts and words manifest experiences extremely quickly.
2. We MUST stop talking about anything negative as it will create more negativity.
3. Find the “happy place” and hold that gratitude for 30 seconds to 2 minutes, even when that other person is not being nice to us. THIS alone can change our lives.

Don’t say “I don’t have time to do this.” It’s honestly 30 seconds a day. Who doesn’t have 30 seconds to change their lives? We spend hours at the gym every week to change our bodies but we won’t stay in bed an extra 30 seconds to a minute and focus on positives or appreciation to change our relationship with someone? By sticking with gratitude, we are living a life from love and can only bring more love in, it is law. LOVE =LOVE.

We all want something…more money, a better relationship with someone, our boss to like us, more friends, weight loss, to overcome a fear, something. Take your pick.

What we typically do is want and wait for “it” to happen. When “it” doesn’t happen we give up and go back to things the way they were. Many of us even say, “I tried but it didn’t happen for me.”

One way to make some serious changes in our lives is to “Act As If” we have already accomplished our goal. Let nothing get in our way, let no one sway us otherwise, just do it.

If we want that better relationship with our husband, it won’t happen automatically. First decide what you want:  More communication, more sex, intimacy, pick one. Think then for a moment how you would react or treat him differently when your desires are met. Imagine in your mind him treating you as you desire and how you will react to that. Then continue acting as if he is treating you this way and continue living this way. Acting as if…

Another example is money. If you want more money in your life, imagine for a moment how you will feel when more  money comes in. How will you emotionally live differently? How will you feel? How will you speak? Act this way, maintain that feeling and just watch as the income shifts.

The reason for this is that we are a (vibrational) match to everything in our lives. The Law of Attraction teaches us that like (vibrations) attract like (vibrations). If we don’t have enough money in our life experience it’s because we are holding beliefs that state we won’t have enough money.

If we have a relationship with our mate where we lack intimacy, there is something within us that states intimacy is unsafe or something our spouse should instigate, or some other belief. It’s something within US that is causing US to get exactly what is in our life, good or bad. If we don’t like what we have in our life experience WE must shift OUR thoughts/feelings about it, which shifts our inner vibration.

Here’s how we do it:

Ask yourself:
1. How will I emotionally feel when “X” happens? How will I act/react to things differently in my life experience after “X” happens?
2. Begin to live this way, as if “X” has already happened!
3. Watch your life begin to change as your desire becomes your reality.

What happens is we become a (vibrational) match for our desired outcome. This is true manifestation. Most of us want the outcome to happen first THEN our mood and attitude will change. We must change our attitude and reactions first and then watch our desires manifest.

To Act As If takes quieting our ego, it means we don’t listen to that inner voice when it says, “But he/she is wrong.” “He/She makes no effort, why should I?” “This is too hard, I’m not doing it.”

Try this empowering act  for a week and you will be surprised with the outcomes you can produce just by Acting As If. After a month, you too will wonder how things can change and manifest so quickly. Put yourself to the test, it will be well worth the effort. I guarantee it.

My friend said to me a couple weeks ago, “How am I going to get it all done?”

She said, “I am in the process of moving from one house to another house, my husband is out of the country, I have 4 kids under the age of 8 (twins under a year) and I have not even begun decorating or shopping for Christmas!”

And we thought we had it tough…

The fact of the matter is, we ALL have a ton to do and even more of it to do around the holidays. As Christmas approaches it’s as though time gets eaten up twice as fast as usual and you end the day asking yourself, “Where did the day go?”

Getting back to my friend from above, my response to her was, “Do nothing.” Well technically not nothing but for the moment you do not do a thing. What we forget to do when we get crazy busy is to pause and prioritize.

When we feel overwhelmed with a million things to do we forget that we have the universe on our side.  What I mean by this is the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction states that what you think about comes about. So if you are thinking, “I am too busy and don’t have time to get anything done!” Guess what will manifest for you? That EXACT circumstance!

So here’s the plan for manifesting exactly what you need to get done right on time.

1. When we feel crazy busy, like we are spinning out of control, the first thing you do is STOP! Even if it’s for a couple minutes, a pause is quite necessary to give your brain a break. We must slow the ego down, this is what is driving us to “think” we have no time.
2. Prioritize. Write a list of the things that need to get done, with the top of the list being the most important.
3. Keep your list out in plain sight, so you can see it and others (physical and non physical) can too.
4. Focus all of your energy on one task at a time. When #1 is done, cross it out-it’s incredibly fulfilling and gratifying to cross out a completed task.

I write my lists on a big dry erase board where I can see it and notice what I am to focus my energy on next. When we divide our energy between multiple tasks, it actually takes longer to complete each task.

What I find is that once I take my tasks and pull them from my head into the world on a board or on paper, many items get crossed off my list without me lifting a finger.

Recently, I had on my list to stop at a store in the mall to pick up a Christmas gift for a friend. A few days after I had added this to my “to do list” a friend of mine called me to talk and when I asked her where she was going, it turned out she was walking into the mall to go to the same store I needed and was happy to pick up the gift I needed.

Things like this happen ALL THE TIME for me. I put on my board that I want new office space. I have yet to drive around looking for space but have had 3 clients in 2 weeks come in to tell me about perfect office space, exactly what I am looking for. All because I paused for a moment, decided what kind of office space I wanted and wrote it down (which launched it out into the great universe), the space can now find me. It’s that simple.
During this holiday season, pause and set your priorities. Allow the universe to cross off some of your “to do’s.” It will make your life magically easier.