Do you need more money? Do you need a better job? How about a relationship? We all have needs, wants and desires and we think about them, even spend time visualizing them but they don’t show up! Why??

A client recently contacted me and asked me why the Law of Attraction isn’t working for her. I had to laugh and say that’s it’s never NOT working. It’s a law, just like gravity, it’s always switched “ON” and can’t be off. It just is.

She said that she has had money issues for too long now and is doing everything according to the Law of Attraction and what we had discussed. She is visualizing checks coming in, visualizing higher bank statement balances when she looks at her statements that come in the mail, she is having gratitude for what she has, we have re-worked some of her limiting beliefs in sessions and done a few other things. So where’s the money!?

When I tuned into her energy I felt stagnation. I asked her what she was doing to bring in the money and she said nothing, just visualizing and doing all of the things to line her thoughts and beliefs up with money. BIG PROBLEM…

This is a mistake many of us make when it comes to understanding the law of attraction.  It is true that like attracts like and we need to line our thoughts and beliefs up with what we want but we also have to get our energy moving in order to bring in the new energy or our wants/desires.

Think of it like riding a merry go round. What you want is sitting on the opposite side of the merry go round but as you stand in front of it, you can’t see it. Picture a pile of money in a bag, on the other side of the merry go round. In order to get the merry go round to move, give it some energy to move it. We must push it, pull it, get it somehow to spin!

Likewise, when we want to create something we must shift our thoughts and beliefs but then TAKE ACTION toward it. So in my client’s case, she must get out and do something to bring in the pile of money she wants. She is an artist and I recommended she start doing her work and then sell her pieces. It’s her true love and her passion. She began to think of doing this and THIS was where the block came up. She felt like she wasn’t good enough to do that and that she might have missed her time, missed the boat. Here is where her block is. Because of these limiting beliefs she was just sitting and waiting for her money to come in and not taking action.

She has decided to push through her fears and just do it, which in turn will get her energy moving and my feeling is that money will begin to show up for her.

When we want something to manifest in our lives the steps are simple:

1. Figure out what you want and define it, state it.
2. Visualize it coming in, imagine it, have fun with it, know it’s coming.
3. Take action steps to bring it to you.
4. Allow the creation to manifest, don’t suppose you know the avenue that it is coming to you from. Manifestations arrive typically the opposite from how we think they are coming.

Now, throughout this process it’s very important to tune into our bodies and pay attention to what is rising up for us. Could there be an emotional block that we are unaware of? If so, get in touch with it, face it and either change that belief or talk with someone that can help you to shift on it.

I remember discussing with a friend who wanted a new job and she was visualizing the heck out of it but it wasn’t manifesting. I asked her how many resumes she had sent out and she replied, “none!” I asked her if she thought her new boss would just come knocking on her door and offer her the job. We laughed together and I recommended a few resumes would be a good idea to send out.

We never know how our manifestations will show up, typically we say, “Who would have thought it would have happened like “THAT?” One thing I know for sure and that is we must take some kind of action to move the energy forward if we ever want to see our desire show up.

I challenge you to join us for a 30 day life changing activity that will take as little as 2 minutes per day. If you can follow these steps for 30 days I will GUARANTEE that your life will be different at the end of 30 days.

HERE’S THE PLAN

Pick one person that you would like to have an improved relationship with.

Find one memory, JUST ONE from the past where you felt appreciation/gratitude/enjoyment/love for them. If you honestly do not have a memory, imagine a positive experience you would like to have with them.

For at least 2 minutes per day, every day for 30 days, close your eyes and imagine the experience when you felt love/enjoyment/appreciation for that person. Imagine that the experience from the past is happening RIGHT NOW. Put yourself there; be there, fully in your emotions.  Tune into your body and notice how good it feels, you may feel lighter, your heart area opening, you may even feel tears. Whatever you feel is perfect. Just sit in it for a minimum of 2 minutes EVERY DAY.

WHAT’S GONNA HAPPEN

Your relationship with that person will change in some way for the better. Don’t expect to know what or how it will change but it will change for the better.

THROUGHOUT THE MONTH

Do your best not to fall into negative thinking about this person you are appreciating. If negative experiences with that person occur, FORCE YOURSELF to not see it and remember your gratitude or fond memory for that person, step back into your meditational focus to get out of your anger/frustration.

DO I HAVE TO DO THIS ONLY WITH A PERSON?

NO! Practice this with ANYONE OR ANYTING you are in a relationship with. You can do this with a business that is not going well or one that you want to go better, a house or car that may be giving you problems or absolutely anything you have a relationship with. For example, food is another thing we all have relationships with. If you are having issues with overeating or under eating, remember a time when you had a healthy relationship with food, even if it’s from when you were 5 years old. Go back there and remember.

PROOF THIS REALLY WORKS.

So why waste your time for 30 days on this? BECAUSE IT WORKS!

I would NEVER suggest something that I have not had experience with. Here are a few examples.

TRACY

Tracy divorced her husband 2 years ago after verbal abuse and control issues for years. He was very angry at her for the divorce and on his weekends with the kids he had gotten to the point where he would text them from the driveway to let the kids know he was there to pick them up. He would not enter the home and definitely not speak to Tracy only through email/text.

Tracy had heard from her other divorced friend’s all of their stories about their ex-husbands and how terrible they were and that they never paid support on time or were late by months etc. Tracy realized that although she and her husband had a strained relationship, he always paid her on time. She decided to find time daily to appreciate his monthly payments coming into her account and that she never once had to ask him. She focused on this daily and had complete appreciation for the money and him directly depositing it.

Three weeks into her daily “appreciation meditation,” her husband showed up to get the kids and saw Tracy out front struggling with the power washer. He walked up to help her and explain why it wasn’t working. The next thing that happened shocked her, he then offered to buy here a new one (since this one was broken) and power wash it for her! He came the next day; power washed, then tilled her back yard and changed the light bulbs on the outside of the house. The following weekend he came back to do more work and Tracy invited him to stay for dinner as a thank you. They had a wine on the back deck, had a nice conversation where he complimented her on what she had done with the house! Needless to say, she was in shock (as he never had complimented her in 17 years of marriage). They now have a relationship that is pleasant and helpful. She wants no part of getting back together with him but loves the relationship that they have now. The ONLY thing she did to make this happen was daily appreciation of the money (as she couldn’t find anything else she liked about him!). Now she has added to her daily appreciation the money and the new relationship/friendship they have and how much easier it is to raise 4 kids with him like this.  AMAZING shift in as little as 3 weeks!

SUSAN

Susan had always had a strained relationship with her mother. Her mother was physically and emotionally unavailable, uncomplimentary, unsupportive and put her down for almost everything.  Growing up and now as a 43 year old, she still struggled to spend time with her. She wanted to change their relationship but didn’t know how. We searched for a memory where she could appreciate her mother. It was difficult but when stretching into childhood (age 7) she realized she felt taken care of and enjoyed the times in the summer when her parents would take her to their relatives farm and they would have so much fun together. I recommended that she step into that 7 year old child and recall the time at the farm and remember her mother smiling and laughing with her. Be the 7 year old again.

Upon doing this for only 3 days, Susan’s mother came to her house and heard Susan disciplining her children (as she has seen for years). When Susan was done, her mother commented to Susan, “You are a much better mother than I ever was.”  She was SHOCKED to hear this! She had NEVER had her mother compliment or praise her and she longed for it. All of this in only 3 days! She has continued to have her daily appreciation meditations and looks forward to more interactions with her mother.

The power behind this is mind blowing to me.  My goal is to get as many people doing this from July 1-30 as possible. If you receive this a few days into July, START TODAY, it’s fine, just get started! Please pass this information along and get friends and other family members to join us for this life changing activity.

I would love your comments on this after the 30 days and if you have any questions regarding this please let me know.

Let’s make some huge changes together! Thanks for joining us.

Namaste,

Michelle

We all want something…more money, a better relationship with someone, our boss to like us, more friends, weight loss, to overcome a fear, something. Take your pick.

What we typically do is want and wait for “it” to happen. When “it” doesn’t happen we give up and go back to things the way they were. Many of us even say, “I tried but it didn’t happen for me.”

One way to make some serious changes in our lives is to “Act As If” we have already accomplished our goal. Let nothing get in our way, let no one sway us otherwise, just do it.

If we want that better relationship with our husband, it won’t happen automatically. First decide what you want:  More communication, more sex, intimacy, pick one. Think then for a moment how you would react or treat him differently when your desires are met. Imagine in your mind him treating you as you desire and how you will react to that. Then continue acting as if he is treating you this way and continue living this way. Acting as if…

Another example is money. If you want more money in your life, imagine for a moment how you will feel when more  money comes in. How will you emotionally live differently? How will you feel? How will you speak? Act this way, maintain that feeling and just watch as the income shifts.

The reason for this is that we are a (vibrational) match to everything in our lives. The Law of Attraction teaches us that like (vibrations) attract like (vibrations). If we don’t have enough money in our life experience it’s because we are holding beliefs that state we won’t have enough money.

If we have a relationship with our mate where we lack intimacy, there is something within us that states intimacy is unsafe or something our spouse should instigate, or some other belief. It’s something within US that is causing US to get exactly what is in our life, good or bad. If we don’t like what we have in our life experience WE must shift OUR thoughts/feelings about it, which shifts our inner vibration.

Here’s how we do it:

Ask yourself:
1. How will I emotionally feel when “X” happens? How will I act/react to things differently in my life experience after “X” happens?
2. Begin to live this way, as if “X” has already happened!
3. Watch your life begin to change as your desire becomes your reality.

What happens is we become a (vibrational) match for our desired outcome. This is true manifestation. Most of us want the outcome to happen first THEN our mood and attitude will change. We must change our attitude and reactions first and then watch our desires manifest.

To Act As If takes quieting our ego, it means we don’t listen to that inner voice when it says, “But he/she is wrong.” “He/She makes no effort, why should I?” “This is too hard, I’m not doing it.”

Try this empowering act  for a week and you will be surprised with the outcomes you can produce just by Acting As If. After a month, you too will wonder how things can change and manifest so quickly. Put yourself to the test, it will be well worth the effort. I guarantee it.

I remember growing up saying a blessing before we ate our meals. I never quite understood why we did this until a few years ago when I learned the relationship between food and energy.

This is a beautiful excerpt from the book Nourishing Traditions that reminds us the importance of being present in performing every daily task, even preparing our meals.

“If woman could see the sparks of light going forth from her fingertips when she is cooking and the substance of light that goes into the food she handles, she would be amazed to see how much of herself she charges into the meals that she prepares for her family and friends.

It is one of the most important and least understood activities of life-that the radiation and feeling that go into the preparation of food affect everyone who partakes of it, and this activity should be unhurried, peaceful and happy.  It would be better that an individual did not eat at all than to eat food that has been prepared under a feeling of anger, resentment, depression or an outward pressure, because the substance of the lifestream performing the service flows into that food and is eaten and actually becomes part of the energy of the receiver.  That is why the advanced spiritual teachers of the East never eat food prepared by anyone other than their own chelas.  Conversely, if the one preparing the food is the only one in the household who is spiritually advanced and an active charge of happiness, purity and peace pours forth into the food from him, this pours forth into the other members and blesses them.  I might say that there are more ways than one of allowing the Spirit of God to enter the flesh of man.”  (Maha Chohan Electrons)

When faced with a situation that you cannot control, one that makes you angry, sad depressed or frustrated there is greatpower in acceptance. When finding out your best friend is moving or your husband wants a divorce or a parent is dying our first response is to stop it. After finding ourselves emotionally exhausted, drained and hopeless we still try and figure out how to prevent it from happening.

When we are confronted with a situation that we cannot repair, the next step simply for ourselves is acceptance. Put down your boxing gloves and just accept what is happening, it’s out of your control. By accepting the situation, our life energy is able to flow again, the depression/anxiety/rage dissipates and the dust settles. Clarity is the predominant state when we choose to accept a situation that we cannot change.

Acceptance is not for the benefit of the other person, it is for you and your own healing.

As I look around me at all of the divorces happening I wonder, does anyone have a good marriage? Do I have a good marriage? What does a good marriage look like?

What has become very clear to me is that the “happy family” that we see at the soccer games, at the parties, at the restaurants sometimes isn’t so happy at home. When the family comes home and the door closes, the façade ends, and the truth comes out-unhappiness, feeling stuck, feeling overwhelmed with kids, the mortgage, the job that may or may not end, the spouse that you look at and feel, “who are you?”

What happens along the way is we get so caught up in our lives and the family that we lose sight of our spouse. They get pushed aside, kids and all of the responsibilities that go along with them seem to take first position on our lives and eat up all of our time and energy.

So if you are waking up and looking at your spouse and wondering if you want to be married anymore and if you have a good marriage (because you don’t know them anymore), pause and breath for a moment.

Consider these questions:

What is a good marriage?

A person that you grow with, share a few things in common and have common goals. A partner to walk your life path with, one that will stand by you in the good and the bad, one that has your back no matter what.

Is the grass greener on the other side?

The grass is NOT greener. Every person on this planet has issues. Every person has issues that they will bring to the table and when you move in with them/marry them, more and more issue will be exposed. A new spouse may not have the issues of your current spouse, but I guarantee you, he/she will have issues. Over time, the new person will erupt with “things” that will annoy you and irritate you.

How is your communication?

Communication is essential to any relationship but key to a good marriage. If you are not expressing yourself to your spouse you are burying all the negative feelings and I guarantee you they will come out someday, perhaps on your kids or your friends/family or even on your spouse when you decide you hate them and are leaving. Communicating your feelings in the moment is crucial for a solid marriage. Occasional arguing is actually a good thing with your spouse, it says that you communicate and are expressing your feelings. I am not saying to throw punches, scream and yell but to express how you feel at times may cause an argument because he other persons’ buttons get pushed. The key is in the resolving of the issue and that you are resolving together and not burying anything. Buried emotions lead to anger, resentment and even depression/anxiety.

Is your spouse in “first place?”

When we have kids, we tend to love them so much the spouse takes the back seat. Also, our family of origin, our mothers, fathers or siblings may be still first in our lives and again the spouse comes in second. To be solid in your marriage, you must place your spouse first, always. You and your spouse build the foundation for the family. It’s like the basement or foundation for a home, if it’s cracked and not stable it won’t support the weight of the house. How is your foundation?

What are you focusing on?

Are you focusing on your partner’s good qualities or the things that bug you or drive you crazy or even make you angry? To reconnect or build a marriage you must focus on and appreciate the good in your partner. Many people may say, “There is nothing!” There is always something, even the smallest thing is something to latch on to. If you focus on anything good, you will get more of it but if you focus on the bad, you will only get more of that too. It is universal law, law of attraction, what you focus on you get more of.

Have you taken responsibility for your “stuff?”

We all come from dysfunctional families; therefore, we all bring our own issues to the table in every relationship we are in. Many times if things are not working out it’s because of our own “stuff!” Look in the mirror and ask yourself, what you have contributed. Own your stuff and work on it. When we heal our “stuff,” we see our relationships through different eyes.

A good marriage takes work. With concerted effort from both partners, it’s worth it, happiness will prevail, and I speak from experience.